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Post by Melody on May 26, 2003 22:43:45 GMT -5
How do you feel about dating a person that has a child/ren? Or excess baggage?
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Post by BelizeanBrownSugar on May 27, 2003 15:50:15 GMT -5
I DONT REALLY CARE TO DATE A GUY WITH KIDS, I DON'T HAVE ANY , SO I WOULD LIKE SOMEONE THAT DOESNT HAVE ANY EITHER. IF I DO HAPPEN TO MEET ONE I HOPE IT'S A MATURE SITUATION THAT I CAN DEAL WITH
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Post by Melody on May 29, 2003 1:01:11 GMT -5
Yeah I am cool on dating a guy with kids even though I have one myself. I don't want to deal with the momma and someone else's kid. My son is perfect and everyone loves him (and I am not saying that because he is my son either) He is an angel compared to other kids. People volunteer to watch him for me. Anyways, a guy with kids is useless. And I believe a woman with too many young kids will have a hard time finding a man that will take her serious.
It's hard for me to want to be around bad kids. And I get frustrated when people don't take care of their kids (man or woman) and make sure they are being raised right. Anyways Goodnight
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Post by sunset on Jul 17, 2003 18:24:03 GMT -5
I dot look at it as a problem if a guy has TEXT or not. It is really important to me if he takes care of his kid and still finds time for me. The minute his baby mama calls my phone trying to go off, some one is getting cussed out and I would have to dismiss him if it becomes a regular thing.
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Post by BelizeanPoet on Jul 22, 2003 14:13:29 GMT -5
A man having a kid is no reason to dismiss him as a worthy man. Love is not found in the amount of kids you have. Yes, it will affect your decision to date him or not but by saying you'd never date a man who has kids, hey, you might be passing up your significant other.
I have more to say but not much time so i'll be back
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Post by keisha on Jul 22, 2003 18:40:42 GMT -5
Don't turn your back on a man who has kids, he may be "the one" especially if he's taking care of those kids and by that I just don’t mean sending money but by being there for them with his time, it shows a lot about his character.
Dating a man with kids can be difficult, but it all depends on how you are and what you can deal with. First of all I believe its up to that man to regulate the amount of contact you have with the mother of his kids. Whether or not you like her you must RESPECT her because if you plan to make a life with this man she will be a constant in your life.
You must accept him and his kids, if you can't do that the relationship won't go very far.
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Post by BelizeanPoet on Jul 23, 2003 15:41:23 GMT -5
Melody how can u say that a guy with kids is useless, that saying goes for you then “a woman with kids is useless”. What makes you different from a guy who has kids, you have a child too but aint nobody calling you useless right. Be fair when you speak it just seems like you wanna downplay people but you make sure you word things to omit yourself when you are in the same boat.
How would you like it if all men looked down at you and didn’t even consider you a dating partner just cause you have a kid. That’s the impression you are giving off to as your feelings to men with kids. (Well, that’s how I see, correct me if I’m wrong)
The point is YOU and I although we only have one kid, some people may also consider that as being Baggage. You having one don’t make you no different from those who have two or three.
One thing I agree with you with though is that it’s hard being around bad kids especially when they need to be disciplined. How can you feel comfortable in a relationship where your partner has kids and you may need to discipline that child. Many problems may arise from situations where unruly and rebellious kids are involved.
My point is, don’t class a man because he has kids or not. Know the real person within. Put yourself in his shoe and wonder how you’d feel (that shouldn’t be too hard for you to do). Although there maybe baby mama drama, as adults you should be able to work that out or end the relationship. Try getting to know the man for who he is. Then you might decide you don’t want him for other reasons like he don’t support his kids etc.
I do agree with Sunset when she said” It is really important to me if he takes care of his kid and still finds time for me. “ That’s what should really matter because if you want a future or life with him you’d be glad to know he will treat you and your kids with the same love and affection.
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