A DIVORCE IN PROGRESS

[BelizeanPoet]

I have a guy friend who is in the process of getting a divorce from his wife of 9 years. They have a 3 year old daughter who is mostly in the care of her mother. This man supports his child financially and emotionally but this woman now feels that she can manipulate this man to get what she wants out of him by using her child. She makes some ridiculous financial demands on him for her own personal use and when he refuses she strikes back by not allowing him to see his child.

Any of you reading who is also a parent knows how hard it can be when you are away from your child. He loves his daughter dearly and would go to any length to be with her. When they were living together, they obtained a joint loan from the bank to purchase a car and other household appliances. When they split, he gave her most of the appliances and the car since he knew she needed the transportation for the child. Now, when it comes time for bank payments, she has repeatedly withdrawn her entire pay check from the bank before the bank makes their deduction from the couple’s joint account since they made the loan as a couple.

For the past 2 months he has been stuck paying the entire loan payment and therefore broke. Now that he has decided to take her to court for doing this, and for joint custody of the child the woman has now threatened him that she will leave the country and he will not be able to get in contact with his child. Because of her threats, he withdrew his charges and has decided to just make the payments since he wants his child to grow up with him.

That’s a selfish woman who will pay for her actions one day I say, what’s your opinion?

[Empress]

She is vindictive, and I think that's horrible. She gives the rest of us a bad name. Is there something else going on? Are they still having sexual contact or something ? Why is she so bitter? If everything is like you say it is he should still go forward with his legal proceedings, that's a big move for her to leave the country and if she doesn't even want to pay a loan how can she afford to leave? I know in the US you can't take a child out of the country without the father's consent, is that how it is in Belize? Anyway Belize doesn't always follow the rules. If I was him I would call her bluff.

[BelizeanPoet]

They have no kind of contact whatsoever because it is only after their separation that he has seen her true ways. He only associates with her to say if and when he can have the child.
And oh, she can afford to pay her portion of the loan, she chooses not to because she knows that her pay reaches the bank before his so if she takes out her pay no problem the bank will freeze the account and take payments out of his since his pay is entered after hers. She lives with another man who is also employed and can support her and the child. I often ask him what the hell could he have done to her to make her treat him that way but he does not want to get into much details but the main thing is she was the one to leave for the man she now lives with.
She has done many crazy things before and especially since her new man is a US citizen I guess he fears that there is chance and opportunity enough for her to pack her bags and leave.
I have a son and I’ve traveled with him many times without any permission from his father or any problems with immigration. And you got that right, Belize NEVER follows rules indeed.

[Empress]

that's too bad, I guess he's in a no win situation. My heart goes out to him, hopefully something will work itself out.

[dre]

It's cheaper to keep her.

Welcome to the life of Divorce. Divorce is ugly, it's cutting one person to become two different person. I look at it like this. Take an apple, cut in two, if they are not placed in a ziplock bag, they both rot. And that's what happens, the relationship rot, unless they come to a mutual understanding.

My heart goes out to both of them. Look like the girl is rotting faster than the guy.