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Post by Melody on Mar 21, 2003 14:48:47 GMT -5
How do you know when someone is running game on you just to gain something?
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Post by Melody on Mar 21, 2003 15:18:32 GMT -5
My homegirl is in a bad situation, because she is dating a guy that has a reputation for using and lying to girls. This guy has filled her head up with all these sweet fairytales. She keeps asking us what to do and we all told her to use her brain. She wants us to give her signs of a guy that is running game, but I told her that she needs to evaluate the situation for herself and sometimes it isn't bad to listen to the rumors. This guy doesn't work and she doesn't want to dog him because he doesn't have anything yet. He keeps telling her that he has a music career and his CD is coming out. Her ex that wants to get back with her is already established.
From bad experiences, I think that a guy that doesn't have a job is bad news and they are trying to use females. I've dated 2 guys that didn't work and they would always say and do the same things. Its funny how a guy with no job can where a $200.00 throwback jersey. I assume that he got the stuff from using people. I don't like to support anyone if they are capable of working. If he needs a ride or a favor, I'll help out, but when he asks me to buy him some new shoes, because he wants to dress nice then he is being a user. If he really wants those things, he will go get a job. I don't mind helping out my working friends that are struggling, because every needs help sometimes. But I find that people that work don't ask for too much. They will ask for $20 or $40 to help them through the week, but people that don't work want me to spend hundreds on them.
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dre
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For in much wisdom is much vexation, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow.
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Post by dre on Mar 21, 2003 15:43:23 GMT -5
How do you know when when a guy is running game on you . . . ?
If you have to ask, then more than likely he is. You women knows. You just try to hang in there and hope that he will change or that you will change him. Women has good intuitions and they are usually true. But most of the time they let their emotions get in the way of making good common sense judgment.
If your girl know that the guy she is dating has a reputation for using and lying to girls and she still decide to date him, then she wants to be lied to and she wants to be used. So leave her there.
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Post by BelizeanPoet on Mar 27, 2003 17:12:33 GMT -5
I think that women SOMETIMES do know when they are being played but with high hopes that they might be the one to change the particular guy, they hand in there. They continued to get played, used and misused.
Not because this guy has a history of using women it means he will use her but she has to be smart enough to realize IF he is using her. People do and can change and she MIGHT be that person to change him and she might not be that person. He might change and he might not.
Don't settle for hopes girl if you know that he's taking you for a ride. Just let it go and move on you need to be in a healthy relationship where you can give and take not only give all the time. It's a two way thing.
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Post by CHAOTIC on Mar 31, 2003 15:39:42 GMT -5
I WILL HAVE TO AGREE THAT THE FIRST STAGE FOR US WOMEN IS DENIAL. YEAH, WE KNOW WHEN THINGS ARE NOT GOING RIGHT, BUT WE MAKE BELIEVE A LOT OF TIMES AND WE GET CAUGHT UP WITH THE WRONG PERCEPTIONS. WHAT IS SAD THOUGH IS WHEN A WOMAN CAN'T MAKE THE RIGHT DECISIONS FOR HER OWN BENEFIT. WE WOMEN LIKE TO GET CAUGHT UP IN THE LOVE SHIT, THAT WE BLAME EVERYTHING ON LOVE. I THINK IN CIRCUMSTANCES AS SUCH YOUR FRIEND, SHE NEEDS TO DISTINGUISH WHAT SHE VALUES MORE AND IF IT IS A MAN OVER HER FEELINGS AND SELF WORTH, THEN NOTHING MUCH CAN BE SAID. A WOMAN NEEDS TO FIND HER WORTH AND DRAW THE LINE. CERTAIN THINGS AS SUCH ( MEN LYING TO US AND CHEATING ON US) HAPPEN BECAUSE OF DIVINE INTERVENTION, DON'T EVER BELIEVE THAT. WE PUT OURSELVES IN MOST OF THE SITUATIONS THAT WE FACE WITH MEN. ANYWAY, ENOUGH ALREADY CAUSE I CAN GO ON.
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