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Post by BelizeanPoet on Mar 17, 2003 14:06:40 GMT -5
Ladies, I’m at ya’ll again, if you were sexually assaulted (Raped) and later find out that you are pregnant, would u
a. Have an abortion,
b. give the child up for adoption?
c. WHAT WOULD U DO?
Men, how would you support your wife, girlfriend etc on this?
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dre
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Post by dre on Mar 17, 2003 14:37:56 GMT -5
I would keep the child and try to convince my wife, girlfriend, daughter to keep the child. Too many deaths in the world, and no reason to kill the innocent. The child didn't asked to be concieved.
Of course with that comes a lot of counceling so I would have to seek that for myself and my wife/girlfriend. But I would let my wife now right away that I do not blame her for what happend and that it was not her fault.
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zoticgal
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Post by zoticgal on Mar 17, 2003 14:42:21 GMT -5
No i would not. I would keep it.
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Post by BelizeanPoet on Mar 17, 2003 15:30:12 GMT -5
I commend you both for being so strong but I honestly feel that I would not be able to carry that child without leaving that awful experience over and over and every time I see that child it would bring back memories of what my attacker did to me. I know it’s not the child’s fault but neither would it be mine. I woul dnot want to bring forth this child and later on end up abusing it because of the pain I might bear with the memories and emotional scars.
They always say though that only who feels it knows because maybe IF it were to happen to me and the child is conceived I would feel differently.
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zoticgal
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Post by zoticgal on Mar 17, 2003 17:18:12 GMT -5
Well, each woman is different. But that's what counseling is for like what Dre said. I know a group of women that had gotten rape and conceived a child. Some of them kept the child and regretted it because the child did reminded them of the ordeal they went through. But most of them, don't compare the child to the ordeal. One woman said, through a violation of me, God gave me a miracle.
I wouldn't go so far, but hey I guess that's her way of dealing with it.
As for me . . . I had a similar situation . . . I knew the person, I was young, I said no, he continued, I didn't consider it rape, I felt I should have never had gotten myself in that situation. Today I know better, but I still love my child. And the father pays child support.
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Post by BelizeanPoet on Mar 18, 2003 13:39:58 GMT -5
Like I always say again and again, “Only he/she who feels it knows”. I guess when you are actually living in this kind of situation, only then can you honestly decide what you will do.
I just think it would be real hard for me to do. What makes a difference in your situation is that you know the person. What if it were a complete stranger who the police never located? Would you have kept the child then? That is the situation I am referring to. I just don’t think I would gain the strength to want to have this child and end up hurting, abusing or maybe abandoning the child.
I know that I would never purposely hurt a child but having this child and having the hardest time bonding with the child because of the circumstances under which it was conceived, I just don’t feel I would be able to live with that. The hard part would be that knowing regardless of the fact that the child’s father is a rapist, the child is still a part of me. It’s a hard thing to deal with and I wish I would never have to face such decisions.
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sunset
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Post by sunset on Jul 23, 2003 18:11:51 GMT -5
This is a touchy topic, but I think that I would not be able to keep the child myself personally. I am not saying I would abort it either. I would have to give it up for adoption and go through serious therapy. I would need to prepare myself for the future if that child would come back and try to find me. I would want to be emotional and mentally stable for my child and try to form some type of relationship with it.
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